I was in a club in West Hollywood with my friend Allison, looking down from a balcony at the large group of people dancing on the main floor. Allison was not in a good mood, mainly because her boss was giving her a hard time. When she was in a bad mood, she tended to rant.
“Look at them. It’s so gross.”
Raising my eyebrows, I looked at her and asked, “What do you mean?”
“Everyone is fake. They’re all just pretending down there.”
“Pretending? I still don’t understand.”
“Fake. Pretentious. Example: look at that dude over there.” She pointed at a guy wearing a thin tie dancing on a table on the right side of the dance floor. “I’m pretty sure when it’s not the weekend, he’s hauling ass at a minimum wage job who probably had to save up a week’s worth of money just to afford to be in here. But look at him! He acts like he’s the coolest guy in here. It’s just so annoying.”
“I’m sure he just wants to have fun. Besides, we don’t know his history.”
“Of course he isn’t. Just look at him. That annoying posture. That fake swagger. He acts like he’s a gift from God.”
I didn’t really know how to respond, so I decided to keep quiet.
“Look, here’s my theory. A lot of people who act cool, composed, and perfect, both here and on social media tend to be such losers out in the real world.”
She now had my full attention. I looked at her seriously this time, trying to see if she actually believed what she was saying.
“That’s what frustrates me so much. Why we wear the masks that we do.”
“We all wear masks to some degree Ally. You should know that better than anyone else here. Hell, your job is to make people look better than they really are. I believe that you call that advertising or something. But here, in the real world, we would call that lying.”
“Haha, Gina. I don’t know how to respond to that because there is some truth. But here’s the thing, it’s one thing to wear a mask and know that it’s not your true self, and really it’s quite another when you start to believe your mask is the real thing.”
“That’s true. But the thing is, I think we all need to wear masks for our own reasons sometimes.”