Sometime a few weeks ago, I woke up and realized that I couldn’t recognize who I was.
It was just how I looked in the mirror. Something had shifted internally. I then flipped over in my notebook to entries written a few months ago, and it was as if my attitude towards the world, how I formed relationships or processed emotions — it was as if I was a completely different person. It seems like I’m only now realizing how large that change was.
I guess it all started when I resolved to start saying yes to doing new things, and to start making memories even though they might be out of my comfort zone. I started saying yes to going to new places, and reconnected with old friends that I hadn’t talked to in years. I said yes to a few blind dates that my friends set me up on, and even though nothing really came out of them in a romantic sense, these experiences helped me realize something within myself — I was reminded that I could give value in a relationship, and that I shouldn’t compromise my happiness just because I didn’t want to be alone. I started going out regularly with friends, and that sometimes doing crazy things is necessary for me to “get out there” and truly have fun. And then I started working, and people who I never would have met at school or otherwise in life have become some of the best people I’ve met in my life so far.
There are also things that I did out on my own. I started going to the gym again. I talked to people in the weight area (it was extremely intimidating at first, but much to my surprise, everybody was nice). I began writing again.
And slowly I realized that the judgmental, introverted person that I was started to become more outgoing and open with people. I would never have thought that was possible. Sometimes, it still feels strange and frightening, but no longer in the bad way.
So I guess the moral of the story is to keep doing what has worked so far — to keep pushing myself and surround myself with people who support and accept me (despite my flaws), to start trusting more, and find out who I can be if I never give up. For the first time in a while, I’m excited to see what the future holds.